We used ‘‘I love you’’ like an apology for all of the things we knew we were doing to wound each other, like a final attempt at keeping the fire from burning out, like two beggars just gripping at each other’s limbs.
I love you — despite hurting you.
I love you — despite judging you.
I love you — despite being incapable of loving myself.
It took us years to understand that love was not meant to justify hurt; that love alone was never meant to be used as a means of vindicating the problems we didn’t fight to change.
In the end, we thought that love would save us from ourselves, but after ages of misuse, the only thing that needed saving was love itself.
See, with you I learned that sometimes love was not enough. With you I learned that even the most passionate love needed work, that two people who were head over heels for one another still needed to make an effort.
They still needed to try, they still needed to nurture each other outside of words, and outside of fire and flame and intensity and impulsion.
With you, I learned that sometimes the best way to love someone was to simply love yourself more — to simply walk away, to save yourself the pain of trying to patch and sew up something that was never going to be fixed; something that was beyond repair.
With you, I learned that sometimes loving someone did not always mean that you were going to have a future with them, did not always mean that you should stay.
With you, I learned that loving someone sometimes did not always mean forever, did not always mean that things were okay.
Latest Stories
-
We may all resort to vote buying if electorates prioritise such over development – Asiedu Nketiah
12 mins -
NDF engages mineral extraction communities in advocacy and litigation resolution
17 mins -
Adabraka in community A/R unites to combat electoral violence
24 mins -
Forestry Commission cracks down on endangered bush meat trade
25 mins -
Global GDP could plunge by 24% by 2,100 without urgent climate action
26 mins -
High Court dismisses lecturer’s bid to block Deputy IGP’s appointment
34 mins -
MTN records 35.5% growth in profit to GH¢3.76bn in quarter 3, 2024
57 mins -
Deloitte to hold training on navigating customs and excise duty Obligations
60 mins -
Akufo-Addo, Bawumia should have prioritised National Peace Campaign launch – Mahama
60 mins -
AGI works to clamp down on substandard foreign mattresses penetrating Ghanaian markets
1 hour -
Immigration Service intercepts 54 gallons of fuel
1 hour -
Ace Medical Insurance makes its mark at Ghana Club 100 Awards
1 hour -
Dafeamekpor takes Speaker to High Court to affirm vacant seats ruling
1 hour -
Government is not funding GMX music streaming platform – Director of Marketing
1 hour -
Energy sector not advancing enough – ACEP
1 hour