Sometimes when women complain about their husbands and their terrible marriage you discover that there had been warning signs but either they did not pay heed or did not even recognize them as such. Here are the types of men who can simply not make a woman happy. You marry such a man and you consign yourself to a life of misery and unfulfillment.
• The man who is obsessed with his mother
If you come into the life of a man obsessed with his mother, you should know that you have a rival you can never dethrone. You will always be ranked second. If a woman can accept that then she can have a successful relationship with mama's boy. But make no mistake about it - your cooking will be compared unfavourably with his mother's; your taste in fashion will be compared with his mother's and any decision that doesn't please mother will not carry. Such men want to be pampered - but your pampering will never measure up to his mother's.
• The man with an abusive or short-tempered father
It is amazing how much we resemble our parents as we grow older. The boys grow to be like their fathers and the girls like their mothers. So, a man whose father has a temper problem and was abusive to his wife is likely to become like his father. He has the potential of physically abusing his wife.
• The man who is lazy
Lazy men refuse to take responsibility for themselves and their dependents. If you found them a job, they would come up with all kinds of excuses and refuse to work. They believe that everyone owes them a living and tend to complain about people not helping them or taking care of them. Such a man never grows and never changes.
• The man with an inferiority complex
There are cases where a man feels intimidated by his woman; he believes she deserves a better man. Such men are often possessive and tend to unfairly accuse their women with no evidence. He has a complex and so he reads meaning into everything the woman does or says and is always thinking that his woman is cheating on him. Such have been known to inflict serious damage on their women often on mere suspicion.
A classical case is the marriage between Shakespeare's Othello and Desdemona. Othello felt that he did not deserve Desdemona; he could not believe that a woman of her standing would be faithful and wholly devoted to him. In the end, upon a false report, he killed her. Such a man always fears that another man would take her away from him.
• The man who is unfeeling, especially towards his subordinates
When a man demonstrates his contempt for other people, especially his subordinates, you should know that he will one day treat you like dirt. He sees himself as superior to every other human being and he cannot be bothered about your feelings.
• The man who is a dictator
There are men I call Sergeant Majors. When they give orders, they must be obeyed without question. They hate to have their decisions questioned and they cannot stand an argument. Their rule is "Obey and don't complain." They get nasty when challenged or questioned.
• The man who thinks he is perfect
He has the delusion that he is perfect; that he never makes mistakes but he can see the fault of everyone else. He can pick someone else's mistake often even before the person has made it. Point out something he has done wrong and he will rationalize his actions. You will always feel that your feelings are not respected with such a man.
• The man who is not appreciative
This kind of man cannot show appreciation. Cut your head for him and he will criticize the way the head was cut or the expression on the face. The words," Thank You" are not in his vocabulary. You will never feel appreciated with such a man.
•The man who craves too much attention
He will do anything for attention. We say that women love attention but there are men who beat women in demanding attention. When they do not get the attention they crave from you, they get nasty and go looking for it elsewhere. Such men are very prone to cheating.
• The man who has no interest in adding value to himself
There are men who have no interest in adding value to themselves. They don't read; they have stopped learning and refuse to give themselves any exposure. They are in a rut and are comfortable there. The problem with such men is that they resent it when their women make progress. They will come up with all kinds of excuses to keep their women down.
• The man who is very possessive
He always wants to be with you. He is very jealous and thinks that every man who speaks or smiles with you is sleeping with you. He calls you at very short intervals to find out where you are and what you are doing. He smothers you in the name of love. He is insecure and obsessive and can get physically abusive. He will not get better; he will get more bitter.
• The man who is disrespectful of women and makes very derogatory statements about women
If you are dating a man who makes derogatory remarks about women regularly and shows no respect for women then you should know that marriage to a man like that cannot come with respect. Don't kid yourself; he will disrespect you too.
• The man whose parents and sisters are too eager for you to marry him
There are instances where a man's parents (especially his mother) and sisters seem more eager for you to marry their son/ brother than he himself. They virtually do the courting for him; they call you more often than he does; they shower you with compliments more often than he does etc.
Whenever you have a problem with him they are the ones who apologize on his behalf and do damage control for him when he himself does not seem to care very much about what he has done. I know this point is controversial but in most cases where this happens, you must understand that the parents and sisters know why they are putting all the pressure on you. They know their son/brother is trouble and they want to offload him as soon as possible.
• The man who thinks that money is everything
There are men who think that money answers everything. They can give a woman everything money can buy. But in a relationship what brings happiness are the intangibles that money cannot buy. This kind of man can buy a woman a car and even build a house for her but still make the woman unhappy because he will not give of himself. In other words, you can have his money but you cannot have his attention and his time.
The difficulty with such a man is that when you complain that you are not happy in the relationship with him, people will look at all that his money has given you and cannot understand why you are still complaining.
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