One of the most important elements in a fulfilling relationship is kindness. It impacts positively on a partner, eases friction, lubricates a relationship and makes it strong.
How to show kindness
Acts of kindness are usually grouped into actions and words. Partners show behavioural kindness when they are meek, mild and humble in meeting the needs of their lovers. Partners also show spoken kindness as they share thoughtful words, seasoned with grace to motivate their lovers and enhance their relationship
Appreciate your woman each day.
Never take her for granted because everyone needs ego boosting. Cherish her good qualities and all the ordinary dealings with her. Make her feel wanted and loved.
You are the most consistent voice your lover hears. Use kind words to support and encourage her. Words have a powerful effect on women. Simple phrases such as "I love you" and ''thank you" are magnified several times in a woman's brain and will always touch her heart.
Some things need not to be said if they destroy her self-esteem and create tension. Tease only for fun but not to hurt. Avoid unkind words and accept her weaknesses. It then becomes easy to forgive her. Listen to your whole body when she speaks to you.
Accept what she says even if you do not agree with her. Show interest in what she says and make it easy for her to discuss her fears with you. It is a sign of kindness if you don't interrupt when your woman speaks to you.
Women organise their thoughts externally as they speak. Interruption kills their interest. Men must, therefore, be polite and courteous with their lovers. A soft answer turns wrath away.
Show compassion and be sensitive to your lover's emotional needs. Take over work that burdens your woman. A man could help her woman do some domestic work seen traditionally as feminine.
Do things for your lover. Show you care, especially when she is sick or in difficulty. Share quality time with her.
Women find closeness with their lovers emotionally fulfilling. A walk or engaging in activities you both enjoy will make her day.
Do unexpected nice acts of kindness. Stir gratitude in your woman's heart. Show your love each day. Never restrict your kindness to specific occasions like her birthday or for making up.
Operate in harmony with her. Making mutual decisions is what a woman considers most important in a relationship. Use your strength to cover her and risk above inner ego to allow her to use her strength to cover you. Your woman has in-born abilities that you can never have, no matter how hard you try. Help each other out to achieve unity.
The seed of kindness is in you because God who made you in His own image is kind. He commands you to be kind. Look inside you to tap into your inborn acts of kindness. Without kindness, your relationship won't last. Studies show that you need five acts of kindness as against one unkind act to make your relationship work.
It should be intentional and spontaneous. You must appreciate that a woman scores the same point for a small act of kindness just as a big one. You, therefore, need not to be extravagant to impress your woman. A man who says nice things to his woman and shares simple activities and fun scores higher than the man who ignores his wife and then turns around at the end of the year to buy her a ticket for holidays abroad.
A Mirror feature by John Boakye
Email: jydboakye@yahoo.com
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