1. Jealousy

When someone is insecure they will get jealous. Since they don’t have the confidence in themselves to be all that you want, they will act out in jealousy when they see you around or talking to someone who they think you might like. This leads to fights that can actually be the end of the relationship.

2. Smothering

An insecure man will try to smother his girlfriend in attempts to always know what she’s doing and to try and keep her happy. Unfortunately, this usually backfires and the women end up feeling like they don’t have any freedom. I don’t know about most women, but I can’t stand this type of behavior and usually don’t tolerate it for long.

3. Arguments

Being insecure leads to jealousy, smothering, controlling behavior, lack of trust, and a large number of other harmful things – all of which can be cause for arguments. No matter who starts the fight, the cause can always be found with the insecure person and how their actions led to the eruption of an argument. Too much fighting usually ends most relationships fairly quickly.

4. Resentment

Not a lot of people realize that resentment can lead to the demise of a relationship. When you’re dating an insecure person, you usually try to avoid doing things that upset them – like, spending time with friends that they are uncomfortable with, wearing certain outfits, and even having a specific hobby that somehow makes your man jealous. This leads to you slowly resenting your partner for being insecure and causing you to miss out on life. Resentment usually causes a loss of feelings for the other person.

5. Comparisons

When someone is insecure they’re always comparing themselves to other people. Not only is this harmful for their self-esteem, but it’s also horrible for the relationship because it causes them to become jealous if they don’t think they can measure up to someone else. It also makes you compare your relationship to another and can sometimes lead you to believe that you’d be happier elsewhere due to your partner’s insecurities causing strife.

6. Put Downs

Many insecure people have a bad habit of putting others down in order to make themselves feel better – just like a bully would do. So if you’re in a relationship with someone who is insecure, you’ll have to deal with a lot of criticism. Nobody likes to be called bad names and put up with it, so this leads to a fight. And ultimately, someone isn’t going to want to be with someone who is putting them down all the time.

7. Disappointment

Due to all the things caused by insecurity, you’re bound to be disappointed a lot of the time if you’re with an insecure person. A lot of them will build themselves up and get really excited for something only to bring down the evening with their jealousy or accusations.

8. Loss of Trust

Insecure people have very little trust to begin with usually, so that’s no surprise. But if you’re dating an insecure person, you may find that you lose trust in them for a number of different reasons. Their name calling hurts you and you lose trust, their accusing you of cheating can make you lose trust in their ability to trust you, etc.

9. Dishonesty

Because you don’t want to upset your insecure man, you’re going to probably lie. A lot. Nobody – that’s sane – likes lying. The problem with lying is that there’s always a way to find out the truth and your dishonesty will hurt him in the end and cause more arguments than it’s worth.

10. Cheating

Nobody wants to think about cheating when it comes to dating someone. However, insecurities lead to cheating for so many reasons. Firstly, insecure people have a tendency to flirt more to make themselves feel better, and this sometimes leads to more. They do this to feel good about themselves. But you may want to seek out enjoyment from other people, too because of how much your insecure man is smothering you.

Getting Past His Insecurities

No matter what reason he’s insecure for, you have to work through it if you think he’s a man worth dating. Here are the best ways to do it.

1. Communicate Often

Talk about your feelings. Tell each other how you feel. Get him to open up about why he’s feeling insecure and then you can work on it. Make sure he knows how you feel, too. Because if he has no idea how much he’s smothering you, how can he try and fix it?

2. Try to Understand

Insecurity can drive a man to do crazy things. Put yourself in his shoes and ask yourself what you would do if you felt that way. Chances are you’ll come to understand his feelings and act accordingly.

3. Give Reassurance – But Not Too Much

Reassure him often that you care about him and no one else. Make sure he knows what he means to you and you’ll see how big of a difference that can make for his insecurity.

Whether or not an insecure man is worth dating is completely up to you. As long as you can get past his insecurities and even help him heal from them, he could be the man of your dreams.